Transitioning from Prone Masturbation to Sex

Prone masturbation is the act of laying face down and humping a flat surface, like a mattress, until orgasm. This self-love technique is used by approximately 10% of males and it involves intense, dry friction.

Prone masturbation is more common with male teenagers, as people who practice this type of stimulation may not be aware of any other ways to masturbate. While prone can feel really good at the time, because it’s a hands-free alternative to hand stroking, making the leap from prone masturbation to sex with a partner can actually be a very difficult transition. Read on to find out how to overcome this habit.

If your body is trained to orgasm in only one way, this can cause erectile dysfunction problems when a partner is introduced into the mix, even if you find them to be very sexually attractive. The inability to have an orgasm through intercourse (called anorgasmia) is another side-effect of prone masturbation. Needless to say, these issues can be very disappointing for both partners.

As discussed in Too Much Masturbation, it is extremely important to masturbate in such as way that will allow you to orgasm with a partner when the time comes. Because prone masturbation puts a huge amount of pressure on the base and underside of the penis, this sensation is not matched by a partner's body, and therefore an orgasm can be difficult to achieve.

A huge part of sex with a partner, be it oral, manual, vaginal or anal, is moisture. Wetness is an essential component in reducing the heat from friction on the skin. Prone masturbation is dry as a bone-- the exact opposite of the real deal.

There are a ton of liquids and lubes that can be used for external male masturbation, as mentioned in this article. However, be aware that a lot of them are not condom-safe. Our best selling masturbation creams are Elbow Grease Original Cream and Elbow Grease Cream Light (none of which are latex compatible).

If you want to get accustomed to the feeling of the lubricant you’ll be using during sex, simply use a condom-safe lubricant while masturbating. Silicone-based lubes, like Wet Platinum are perfect for this, as they are both long lasting and latex-safe. To learn all about the different types of personal lubricants out there, click here.

Along with getting used to lubricants and a light touch, Posh Wanking (masturbating with a condom, like Caution Wear Black Ice) is a great tool for acclimating yourself to the feeling of condoms during sex. Plus, it makes cleanup a breeze, which is always a plus, and can be a perfect opportunity for you to find your perfect condom size, material and shape.

Try a variety of positions while masturbating, like standing up, kneeling down, one leg up, etc. This will more closely mimic what sex is like with a partner, as opposed to only being in the missionary position with your mattress. You may even want to do some Yoga or other exercises to increase your flexibility and Athleticism in Bed as preparation for the real thing.

If you or your partner is a prone masturbator, don't despair. The body can be retrained to orgasm through other means, but it may take a few weeks. This can require a lot of self-control and experimenting with other ways of experiencing pleasure-- often referred to as fap reboot. If you’re having trouble resisting the urge, consider trying a hand-held toy for boys such as Lacey’s Futurotic Travel Tush. Just be sure to lube it up!