3 Reasons You Should Have Sex Before You're Married
Enjoyable sex with your partner is the key to maintaining your relationship. So here’s 5 reasons you totally should have sex before marriage.
Growing up in a very religious household, and subsequently spending my youth in Texas, I was taught that abstinence was the only way to have a successful relationship and that good people wait until they are married to have sex. Go figure, that wasn’t entirely true. Sensuality and touch is very important in maintaining a relationship and sex is a natural part of that. The key is to make sure you and your partner are protected.
Here are some great reasons you should consider having sex before marriage.
Sexual compatibility is essential in a strong relationship. Maintaining your desire for the your partner is key as well as making sure you are both being sexually satisfied. Not being in sync with your partner sexually or regularly having “bad sex” can damage your relationship and cause unwanted stress. Here’s an anecdote from a Salon magazine subscriber:
Our bodies wanted different things from one another, so what we ended up with was a horizontal battle. I would hear married girlfriends talk about the joys of make-up sex and continue to sip my coffee in silence. We would fight, and then have bad sex and then fight some more. Every flaw in our marriage and in him seemed much more miserable when combined with the possibility of faking orgasms until death did we part. There was no relief. Six months into our marriage, the idea of separating seemed more appealing than feigning headaches for the rest of my life.
The Sex Itself:
Sex is easy, but everyone is different in their likes and dislikes. Also sex is rarely good the first few times you have it. Exciting, yes, but not those amazing sessions that seem to take hours. Those take practice. Let’s be honest, there are a million and one things on your mind the day you get married. The last thing you would want is to be intimidated by sex on the day of your wedding night, or worse, not have the sex you “expected” because of inexperience with sex or just not knowing what makes your partner go crazy.
Premature ejaculation, inability to get erections, dryness, or even semen allergies are all possibilities that may come up...or not in the case of the flaccid penis. These are all issues that you should deal with before the marriage. It’ll help you overcome these obstacles or at least show that your partner may or may not want to deal with those issues and save you marital stress.
These are all great reasons to consider sex before you put a ring on it, but of course the decision is up to you and your partner. As with any good relationship communication is key, so talk about these issues and see what will work out best for the both of you.
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