June 05, 2018

Is This Male or Female Ejaculate?

An important question keeps appearing all over the internet, time and time again. “Why is there white stuff on my scrotum after sex, when my condom didn’t break?” Clearly, it’s high time for some clarification on bodily fluids.

Both penises and vaginas secrete a milky discharge-- especially during sex or masturbation. Fluids from both varieties of genitals can vary in color, opaqueness and thickness. We’ve already covered breakthrough bleeding, in which red, pink or brown discharge is exiting the vagina. But, what if the wetness left behind after sex looks more like male ejaculate?

Act Before You Refract

Well, there are a few explanations for this scenario. The first reason this could occur would be if an orgasm was achieved by a male partner, and he did not withdraw in a timely manner. It is best to firmly grasp onto the condom and remove yourself immediately after climax.

This prevents the semen from leaking out of the condom as the penis goes into its refractory period. Granted, that is not always easy, particularly if the partner still wants more. The best solution is to keep an additional condom, like the LifeStyles 3SUM, handy to slip on in the event of a partner wanting more after ejaculation has already occurred.

This is also why it is essential to wear a properly-sized condom, because as the erection shrinks in size, the condom needs to stay on-- for at least as long as it takes to remove oneself from the orifice of choice. Otherwise, the ejaculate can seep out around the ring of the condom, so be very sure your girth size is appropriate for the condoms you use.

It’s Cool, It’s Just Grool

The second reason for a whitish, left-behind fluid is that the cervix is in a phase of the menstrual cycle in which thick, white discharge is being flushed out. This mixes with the natural lubrication of the vagina to create a semen-like appearance. A slang term for this is “grool,” although most of my friends simply call it “creamy.”

Grool confuses people because it only exists during certain times of the month, and it is washed away during squirting, which makes it one of the more rarely spotted and elusive fluids that come out of the vagina. In this sense, grool is the endangered species of vaginal fluids.

To better understand where grool comes from, simply picture the inner workings of a butter churn. The churning effect that sex has in a vagina is akin to this concept. Introduction of air + pounding + thick cervical discharge + vaginal lubrication = grool.

Inexperienced partners may be very concerned to find evidence of grool on their pubic regions after sex because they likely haven’t encountered it before in person or on screen. I’ve even heard of people panicking and checking for evidence of stealthing by running water in their used condom to make sure the condom wasn’t tampered with. Relax, fellas. It’s cool. It's just grool.